Life can be Fair, sometimes!

Do we get attracted to what we think about? Or do things and persons send vibes that make us get attracted to them?

I think we attract what we think about, whether it’s a person, feeling or a thing. We are the strong magnet in this process. The world is full of things from all kinds and people with different traits and characteristics. But we don’t see all that. We only see what we think about; our own horizon shrinks to include things and people we have something in common with and on the other hand detach what may be odd to us.

And I think it’s fair enough!

So, it all starts in your head and heart. When you fill these organs with love, passion, and positivity, you’ll get it. However, when you just go in life aimlessly, holding a grudge toward others, and with a bunch of complaints, you’ll get just the same as you feel.

But what about times of being depressed, sad, or anxious? How can we during these times change our sails to the positive while we are unable to take any action or see anything away from BLACK?
I think during good times, we should write down what makes us happy, motivated, and eager to achieve new things and go on living. So during hard times, we can get back to those notes and make use of what we wrote before. Of course, it’ll be hard to be so objective and detach yourself from your current mood, but it can help in some way.
It’s your own job!
You’re the one who is responsible for directing your sails and drawing lines of your steps towards your destination.

So every time you feel things are going the other direction you’ve been planning on, just think for a second; what was my main thought for the day?

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Incomplete Sentences

Sometimes we leave sentences incomplete because we don’t know what is the best way to end them.
And then, they remain incomplete for hours, days, weeks and perhaps till starting a new chapter in our life. Yet, this chapter remains open because of this incomplete sentence, and here the fatal damage sneaks in!
Life goes on. And from time to time we return to this open chapter and stay for hours thinking about the same incomplete sentence without reaching a satisfying ending. We feel it gaining power and starts challenging us. Only then, the phantom of what if starts to devour us!
The delusion of various options start to deprive us of self-control , inner peace, and being mindful, present in the moment. Our minds start to chase possibilities which aren’t real and never could be applied.
As a result, each forthcoming chapter becomes affected by this open one, which already dwells in the past, and your attention would forever be scattered between possibilities which would lead to nothing but regret and doubt.
This may seem a way to escape the ongoing chapter and find a release from present stress. But in the long run, it’d be a burden which causes anxiety!
So, try not to leave sentences incomplete, and the most important, you should end chapters you’ve started!

Tips to Beat Procrastination

Your to-do list is growing larger.. pile of papers on your desk is not ready yet ..the red light of deadlines is getting on your nerves.. Welcome to the realm of procrastination!

We were brought up on the proverb “never put off until tomorrow what you can do today” which targets the essence of procrastination, yet applying it is not that easy.

A procrastinator is not a lazy person who has been doing nothing, instead, he is overwhelmed by a quarrel deep within and stress is affecting his whole system because of not getting things done. People who struggle with procrastination may spend hours distracting themselves instead of addressing obligations that require time and effort.

Needless to say that everyone has put off a task at some point in their life, but are all of us can relate to the same category of procrastinators?

There’s no single type of a procrastinator. Chronic procrastinators have perpetual problems finishing tasks, while situational ones delay based on the task itself. A perfect storm of procrastination occurs when an unpleasant task meets a person who’s high in impulsivity and low in self-discipline.

But is it the inability to manage time or the inability to regulate moods and emotions that create the gap between intention and action?

It has long been believed that people who procrastinate have a faulty sense of time — that they think they will have more time to get something done than they actually do. On the other hand, there is another suggestion that procrastination is linked to difficulty managing distress. Specifically, it seems that task aversion is to blame — that is, when people view a task in an unpleasant manner (“It will be tough, boring, painful…”), they are more likely to put it off.

While procrastinators may be trying to avoid distress, this approach can ironically cause more distress in the long run. Procrastination can lead to increased stress, health problems, and poorer performance. Procrastinators tend to have more sleep issues and experience greater stressful regret than non-procrastinators. What’s more, procrastination can also hinder your self-esteem with the guilt, shame, or self-critical thoughts that can result from putting off tasks.

But have you ever wondered why you — or others —procrastinate?

1- You aren’t qualified: self-doubt can be your biggest enemy. You may feel like the task is above your skill level. If there’s a steep learning curve, it can be hard to start.  You start creating excuses; a bunch of them is ready (waiting inspiration.. waiting the right moment..waiting to be in the mood. Etc)

2- You don’t know the next task: If you don’t know what will happen after this step, you will procrastinate because you’re afraid of what comes next.

3- You don’t have a schedule: If you plan to start the task when you have time or feel motivated, you will put it off longer and longer

4- The task is uncomfortable: Many of the tasks we do are challenging and not fun, and those are the ones we find most difficult.

So, procrastination does not just happen or that it is a sort of entire laziness and distraction; it has its reasons, however, how to beat it remains the most important part:

  1. Get rid of catastrophizing

One of the biggest reasons people procrastinate is because they catastrophize, or make a huge deal out of something. It may be related to how tough, how boring, or how painful it will be to complete the task. In reality, challenges, boredom, and hard work will not kill you — or even make you sick. Procrastination, on the other hand, is associated with stress

2- Drop the perfectionism

Perfectionists are often procrastinators; it is psychologically more acceptable to never tackle a task than to face the possibility of falling short on performance. Perfectionism is an all-or-nothing mentality: Something is either perfect or it is a failure. People with perfectionistic tendencies tend to wait until things are perfect in order to proceed — so, if it’s not perfect, you cannot be finished. Or if it is not the perfect time, you believe you can’t start. This all-or-nothing mentality can hold you back from starting or completing tasks.

Instead, focus on being better than perfect. This means to still strive for excellence, creating excellence, or setting yourself up with excellent conditions, but at the same time, you focus on getting the job done.

3-Focus on your “why”

Procrastinators focus more on short-term gains (avoiding the distress associated with the task), as opposed to long-term results (the stress of not doing it, as well as the consequences of avoiding this task). Instead, try focusing on why you are doing this task: What are the benefits of completing it? And accept deadlines as your friend not a threat that makes you stressed and unable to think clearly. Encourage yourself by anticipating feeling sweetness of productivity and make it happen and by then all the load would be over.

4-Get rid of excuses

Do any of these sound familiar? “I need to be in the mood.” “I will wait until I have time.” “I work better under pressure.” “I need X to happen before I can start.”

Out!

Try to be the master of your mind; the one behind the wheel. Be honest with yourself, these are nothing but excuses. Sure, it might be nice to ”be in the mood,” but waiting for that to happen can mean you never start your project. If you only procrastinate because the task is uncomfortable, schedule it first thing in the morning and start before you can object.

Finally, procrastination is not an epidemic or a plague; it is a quintessential breakdown of self-control which could be overcome with effort.

Quotes I Love

1-“Those who don’t jump will never fly.” – Leena Ahmad Almashat
2-“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” – Michelangelo
3-“Only those who have the patience to do simple things perfectly will acquire the skills to do difficult things easily.” – Friedrich Von Schiller
4-“To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
5-“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” -Les Brown

The Best Uplifting Quotes I’ve Ever read

1- “You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural and enjoyable.” Deepak Chopra
2- “I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I’m realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.” Walt Disney
3- “Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive thoughts.” Willie Nelson
4- “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” Dalai Lama
5- “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” Helen Keller